We are often afraid with confrontations, so we prefer not to do it and say nothing, but simple questions from a coaching perspective will help us in our day-to-day situations. Recall that coaching doesn’t try to form or offer advice, part of the idea is that the client has all the resources necessary to achieve their goals.
Following are some examples of how you work in coaching sessions on each aspect of life, which will prove that they ask powerful questions that makes the client think about their actions.
Coaching Examples of Love
- How am I going to tell my partner that I want to end the relationship?
This is a very delicate question to carry out, so I suggest that you take a few minutes to think about these questions so that you find the best solution to achieve it:
- Are you sure of what you want? Have you contemplated what you are going to win and lose?
- What tools do you need to do it, plans, courage, pride, esteem? And above all how to do it without making anyone feel guilty or embarrassed?
- Imagine that you have already done it, how do you feel about it? What are the steps you have taken to achieve it?
- If your commitment is real, when are you going to do it?
- How to deal with my partner’s infidelity?
Learning as you know very well is a process by which we acquire a new behavior, modify an old behavior or extinguish some behavior. So that this can report you the knowledge that you want and your purpose is fulfilled, I recommend that you look for literature related to the subject. I propose that you reflect on the questions that will help you:
- What is the real situation you are in? How good is your relationship?
- What are the purposes behind what you want, have you thought about the appropriateness of your expectations?
- What necessary and motivating questions or factors can help you? What are the ideas you have to change the situation?
- What are you going to do to achieve your goal? When are you going to do it?
Coaching Examples for Family and Friends
- How do I tell my children that I have a new partner?
To face such an important situation within your family relationship, I recommend that you reflect on the questions that I formulated and these will surely help you to find unexpected answers:
- What is it that scares you to tell them? What could help you to overcome those fears?
- What personal resources will help you to make it happen? And what else?
- In what way can you involve your children? How would you like to involve them?
- What would make you work today?
- How do I tell my children that I will get a divorce?
It is obvious that for you it is very important to achieve that goal, think and reflect on the questions I am going to ask you and find out how to get it:
- What do you have to achieve it? What does your partner think?
- Have you analyzed whether your expectations and motivations are owed?
- Imagine that you have managed to communicate it to your child, what path did you follow, how did you plan? Did you do it alone or did your partner help you?
- How and when are you going to start doing it?
- How do I approach the problem of a child who uses drugs?
I suggest that for you to be able to achieve your goal, start by paying attention to these communication tools:
- Listen out.
Besides, it would be very good if you could reflect on the questions that I am going to ask you:
- What do you think you can do to change and improve communication with your child?
- What internal resources can you use to get your child involved and feel an active part of the decisions?
- Have you considered looking for information and advice?
- When and how are you going to start?
- How do I tell my friends and family that I am going to be divorced?
Communication in social relationships is such a fundamental tool so that you can use it for what you are looking for, it is necessary that you reflect on the questions that I formulated and these will surely help you to find the answer:
- How would you like it to happen?
- What personal resources will help you make it happen?
- How can you start planning for it? What else would you need to achieve your goal?
- If your degree of commitment is high, then what are you going to do to start it today?
Coaching Examples of Work
- How do I tell my boss that I want a raise?
Undoubtedly the increase in remuneration is something that we all want but I propose to reflect on the questions below:
- What real options do you have to get it?
- What merits have you accumulated to get that salary increase?
- What ideas do you think to get it?
- Who can directly influence a salary increase decision?
- Who could support you to get it?
- When is the best time to quit and how to tell the boss?
To change companies, I am inviting you to take some time and think about the following questions:
- What are you willing to give up in your current company?
- What are the indispensable criteria that your ideal company has?
- What values must the company honor that are essential for you?
- What actions are you going to take to achieve this?
- What are the pros and cons of moving to another company?
- How to notify an employee who is going to be fired?
Before a situation as delicate as the one you have exposed I suggest you reflect on how you can find the answer to these questions:
- Why there is a need dismissal?
- Have you consulted with someone who, both outside and inside the job, can advise you?
- Imagine that you do not this person. How would you do it?
- What will happen whether you get it or you get it?
- How to discuss the low performance of an employee to increase their productivity?
To increase the productivity of the team/employee I propose that you take some time and reflect on these issues:
- How do you manage your team/employee?
- What are the future actions that you are going to put in place to achieve this productivity?
- What will your team/employee think about it?
- Think about how can your leadership skills influence more and encourage team/employee’s productivity?
Coaching Examples for Personal Growth
- How do I make myself recover after experiencing failure?
To get you to come up with your question, let me suggest some powerful questions that you can use to illuminate your path:
- What do you want to happen in your life?
- What aspects do you want to be more appropriate or better in your life? What will you gain from it?
- What actions are you going to take to overcome yourself?
- What do you promise to do to achieve it?
Coaching Examples for Health
- What is the best way to heal myself who is terminally ill and what do I do to stay strong?
It is very important that you look for the best way and find your skills that will aid you:
- What personal skills can help you?
- How can you dedicate the attention you need?
- Are you consistent with your personal values and how do you take care of them?
- What actions are you going to take to take care of yourself and stay strong?
I hope these examples will help you to better understand the approach we take in coaching and do not hesitate to share them with those who need it.